Growing Up

Different stages of life come with peculiar responsibilities, needs and focus. Some people would say, ''Growing up is a set up.'' Is it? It depends on what angle we view it as this depends on a lot of things.

Growing up is beyond the peripheral, it’s even deeper than our ages and body changes. It is increase from deep within that brings forth the set and expected purpose of existence. Growing up is quite an experience with so many hurdles to cross; disappointments, victories, sadness, joy, failures and success. But all that we pass through should be catalysts towards making us better people. We had hurdles we jumped as kids and then as adult we have even bigger ones to cross and as the days and years go by, we face different challenges and choices.

The reason most people feel lost is because they have failed to discover their purpose in life as well as where their strength lies and then go for it. Without purpose discovery, you will keep living each day as it comes without any sense of fulfillment. It becomes a cycle and then you get bored and begin to wonder if this is what growing up is all about. Is it about getting good grades in school, graduating, get a good job, get married, have kids, work your ass out to enable you and your dependents survive. Do not get me wrong, all these are good, in fact very good but besides the norm, have you been able to find that purpose and live to fulfill it? So many people would one day sit on the porch in front of their homes when they are old and grey thinking of things they could have or wanted to do but due to one reason or the other they didn’t. At that moment, a feeling of guilt and regret come rushing in but the hands of time cannot be reversed.

As each day heralds, we age, new ideas are born and new opportunities spring forth.  We should know that the world and everything keeps evolving and growing including our body metabolism. One thing that may not be directly related to all mentioned above is OUR MIND. So imagine everything around you moving north while your mind remains at the same midpoint. The more things move, the relationship becomes inversely related. So as time moves, our body grows with it and we should endeavor to make a conscious effort for our minds to be at par or even ahead if possible. You do not want to get lost in the midst of all the bustle & hustle and end up wondering if this was what you bargained for.

Growing up is a conscious effort!

Loving You

A strong relationship with oneself is a necessary precusor to every other relationship in life. People (mostly ladies) recklessly pursue external relationships with the hope of achieving internal peace, we are famished for love that we settle for anyone or anything that gives to us what we should give ourselves. You need to fix your inner person and then it projects outwardly and that determines what and who you will attract. A Yoruba adage says and I quote, ''Irini sini ni isoni lojo''. What this simply means is that, people treat you based on how they perceive and see you. One thing we should not forget is that we are our own preacher and we train others on how to treat us by how we treat ourselves. It is virtually impossible to find someone to appreciate you as a person if you do not allow them to see you as a settled & stabilized human being. So first of all value your existence, presence and most importantly LOVE BEING U 'cos ure special.


Always pray for strength
Praise God for your existence and survival
...and don't forget to pamper yourself at least once in a while

I LOVE MII!! What bout u?

Life's Trends

This is not necessarily a motivational note but just a jumble of words and scenarios to briefly emphasize what we already know and leave us pondering. There are so many trends, patterns and twists to life; you just can’t figure it all out. Remember when you were in elementary school? When you had no care in the world other than just alphabets, swings, games, candies and cartoon …….Hmmmm what sweet memories. Then you had so many ambitions which were all childhood euphoria, dreams and innocent minds. Tick Tock; high school came knocking on your door. It wasn’t really what you expected because you were having a hard time with seniors bullying you, sending you on endless errands, punishing you for God know what. This list goes on and on till you eventually found yourself in the university and the rest you can fill in yourself.
Fresh out of the University! You were so ecstatic about the fact that you would start working and earning your own money. That feeling of independence and freedom was the greatest joy in your heart and you just couldn’t wait. Our needs and wants change and escalate as we grow. Just like the popular Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy of needs which explains the trend of needs from physiological to safety to social, esteem and then self-actualization.
It’s all human nature to always want more but things don’t always go the way you visualize it sometimes. You have this picture in your head and then it’s a different story when you get to that part in your life when you thought things will turn out in a certain way, follow a certain direction or course and have a particular pattern and then its otherwise.
It’s just all a rat race we will all run till the end and you know what? Its survival of the fittest; that’s just the way it is.

THE RACIST IN US

Going to work on a cold Wednesday morning, mom dropped me off at the usual spot along the way. I stopped by at a Quick Service Restaurant to grab a cup of coffee and doughnuts, crossed and walked to the bus stop to take a bus. Yaba! Palmgroove a conductor screamed!! Quickly I got to the bus and tried to open the front door but it was locked. I then beckoned the driver to open and then he said, ''Ko sise, e bo si eyin.'' (The door isn’t working) Saying nothing I jumped unto a seat at the back and he repeated same when an elderly woman tried opening the front door as well.

And alas a man in uniform came around and quickly, the driver unbolted the door! I was surprised and asked him, "Sebi e so pe ilekun yen o sise?" (I thought you said the door couldn't open) but He just ignored me. I shook my head, smiled and turned to look at the elderly woman and she was laughing as well.

The fact is that there is a racist deep inside each and every one of us. Yes there is! It is the belief that there are inherent differences in people's traits and capacities which are entirely due to their race; so the dictionary says. Whether you discriminate based on colour, gender, age, achievements, or status, discrimination is discrimination. To me it is! Ehn ehn. You do not have to agree.

You walk into a bank and because you are maybe a driver dressed in your uniform, the teller doesn’t even say a good morning and is all grumpy without even the patience to help you. You look back and wonder if this was the same lady who attended to you 'cos you can see her shinning her 32 'cos there’s a nicely dressed TD&H man standing right in front of her ....lol

Even in hospitals!!! Haba! Nurses! This particularly in Government owned hospitals; the commoners are treated like prisoners. Some years back, I had an appointment with the ENT in LASUTH and as I walked down the reception hall way I could hear the groaning of a woman in pains. I walked towards the direction of the noise and there I saw a woman in labour. She was not on a wheel chair, neither was she on a bed or a stretcher; there she was crying and groaning whilst the nurse rained insults on her. ..........and there we go saying One nation! We are brothers and sisters!! Na so. Yimu!
Moreover, Oyinbo would come to our country and we treat them like eggs, give them all the care and comfort, lodge them in world class hotels but can't do same for our own not even considering the fact that it isn’t vice versa. The circle is broken, therefore, who am I to judge anyone. Those discriminating acts may seem so very little but discrimination is discrimination to me. A sin as little as lying in the sight of God is not less than stealing or murdering.
Roger that!
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